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“Forgiving…is the only reaction which does not merely re-act but acts anew and unexpectedly, unconditioned by the act which provoked it and therefore freeing from its consequences both the one who forgives and the one who is forgiven”
Forgiving is not to absolve abuse, violence, or bad behaviour, but to free yourself from the incessant need of those who hurt you to make amends, which may never come. Forgiving is the difficult process of coming-to-terms-with what happened, and to learn to live with what happened, for unmourned grievances stop you from living. Forgiving is for-giving, not debt-collecting, and this transforms the meaning and consequences of the injustice.